Life Ups and Downs
March 9th, 2007 by hendrawatiLife ups and downs are inescapable, not only encountered by human, but also animals and other unseen creature. When we are high, we often forget about our real purpose, real commitment and most of all we forget about virtues, we bury the compassion and groom the arrogancy and start to become mean. Till we are kicked down to the Hell, we recall our real purpose and commitment, we remember the virtues, and then regret deeply for what we have done, could not eat, could not sleep well, and could not think clearly.
But then, what’s the point of regreting the past? Will it change the past or improve our future? Nope, it would cause mental distortion, severe damage on brain cells, lost friends, happiness gone, and then die in loneliness and deep regret.
Then, our parents will be severely hurted by our behaviour, feel despair, and feel as if they have failed to teach us. Is it what we want?
Let’s sit back and contemplate it for a while. Rather than torturing ourselves that way, it’d better to broaden our view, change the mindset and look into our heart and mind.
When the bad wind flow to us, let’s ask ourselves : why I’m sad, why I’m stressed.
Then, we would answer : "it’s because I failed to do …"
Then, ask again : "why I failed to do so?"
Be brave and be honest to admit the reason for failure, never put the mistake on other people.
Then, we’ll answer : "it’s because …"
Then, we must say : "Ok, then what’s the worst thing that would happen to me?"
Think the worst consequences that would happen and breath as deeply as we can.
Then, accept the worst consequence from the bottom of your heart.
We’ll be more relax and relieved now.
It’s the time to think the way out..
List down the step to save the situation.
Also list down the way to improve ourselves so that that bad thing won’t happen to us anymore in the future.
Smile and start socializing with other people.
Now, we’ll feel better and we are saved from the valley of suffering. ^-^
